a little overwhelmed...

I am totally overwhelmed with this move, in that I am looking for the "perfect place" to move to and I need to realize that we make the perfect place, right?

This Sunday, we are going to go and visit a ward in Yuba City on the way back from houseboating (excited to find out what that is all about!) with Keri/Larry and fam. We visited our ward in Kaysville, before we moved there and people chided us for that, I mean what do you look for in a ward?
We have loved our Ripon ward, but if some people were visiting that ward for a few testimonies when one lady testified that she "literally sees dead people" doing family history...no one would have moved in!
So, I guess I will mostly be looking at the kids, how they dress, what their hair looks like-how it is cut or if it is cut (boys), are the YW wearing too short of skirts, too much make up etc. Is that shallow?
I think the kids will really tell me what they think but I am afraid they won't be open minded. We have visited my sister's ward and our old Kaysville ward and McKay was fit to be tied that they were rude to their teachers and texting during class. Hollie said about my sister's ward, "you can tell that their leaders love them, but they don't love them back-that is sad" She also noticed that they called our friend who is in the bishopbric by his last name and not Brother so and so. They are picky and biased and I don't blame them. We have had great wards and hope to find another one.
The school thing is also driving me crazy with worry too. Do I go to Yuba City High School, Home of the Honkers-the girls die at the thought. Student Body 1848-twice the size of Ripon High and intimidating to the girls. The other school is a block schedule and we can't transfer there in the middle of the year. Do we live in Sutter? 5 minutes from Yuba, ASB 700 along with Wheatland High-if we live in Plumas Lake-15 minutes from Yuba City. Lincoln High, has 1400 students with Block Trimesters that said will work with the girls as long as we get there by November 12th. That will be 1/2 hour commute for Steve in Lincoln which he says he is happy to drive. But I worry, and this shows you how I am almost clinical with this worry now, that if I go to Education Week or a race etc. Steve will be 1/2 hour away from the kids if they need anything during the day when I am gone. Is that silly?
I am praying that when we find the place, I will "feel" it. Otherwise, I am ready to put the towns and schools on a dart board and start throwing. That would probably take awhile because I usually don't hit the board that often! :)